The continuation of a thread on elder care and the Sutton’s
new season of life changes…
Hindsight is always 20/20 and filled with lots of regrets
for missed moments. We didn’t see the
warning signs when my hubby’s mom began the spiraling down road of dementia. We didn’t think to document our family history
or to unearth the piles of photos of his past family who have now become ghost
of my husband’s family history.
All these challenges have really come to fruition for our
family as we have waded through 60 years of history left in my mother in law’s
home. Little did we know of all the small
trinkets, letters to home and family that were hidden in the crevices of her
home. We all pass the pictures around to
different siblings trying to figure out who they are; who was this letter referring
too? It is as if a hole that we didn’t
know existed has now been revealed only to make the loss of our dear Granny’s
mind more poignant.
So what should have been done with our perfect hindsight of
20/20? We wish we had used modern technology
and videoed a question/answer session. The
moment is too late for my hubby’s mom who we affectionately call Granny; but
with my mom we seized the moment though a little late.
I would encourage you to have a family gathering if not a reunion
with all the grandkids around. Tell all
to think of questions they always wanted to know and have them ready to ask
grandma…or granddad…or whichever elder person you want to document your family
heritage.
We accidentally did this with my mom, when we had a surprise 80th
birthday party for her. As the
festivities died down, the adults, including several of the grandkids, gravitated
to my living room. Grandma reminisced about
a story of her past which prompted someone to ask how grandma & granddad
met. This turned into a springboard of
questions asked about our heritage. Though my sister and I heard had heard many of
the stories there were many new tales that surprised us. It made me so glad that we had captured the
moment. My admonition to all? Don’t let the business of life let you lose
your heritage.
Lest I bring despair and sadness to those whose parents have
passed on or other circumstances have caused this not to be a possibility,
there is a future coming in heaven where all our questions and curiosities will
be answered. A relationship with Jesus,
is the key to the door. If you want to
learn more about how to have a relationship with Jesus, call or email me.
A side note to the family picture we found....we knew this picture was a pic of my husband's dad and uncle. My daughter used her photography talent to fix the pic. What a blessing to have a great pic from the past with the knowledge of who it was!
A side note to the family picture we found....we knew this picture was a pic of my husband's dad and uncle. My daughter used her photography talent to fix the pic. What a blessing to have a great pic from the past with the knowledge of who it was!
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